Self-image and sexuality
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- Physical changes during and after treatment
- Changes in Your Sex Life
- Dating
Physical changes during and after treatment
Some body changes are short-lived, while others always go away. Either way, during or after the treatment, there may be a lot of worry about your appearance. For example, people after colon or spherical surgeries are afraid to go out occasionally. They worry about nearby equipment or are afraid that this leak may occur. Some people are embarrassed or afraid that others rejected them.
Every person changes in different ways, others will be able to pay attention to others, but only you will see some changes. For some of these you may need time to adjust. The problems you can face include:
- Hair loss or skin changes
- Traces or changes due to surgery
- Weight change
- Loss of organs
- Loss of fertility, which means that getting pregnant or father can be difficult for a child
Even if others can not be seen by them, changes in your body can disturb you. The feelings of anger and sorrow are natural about the changes in your body. It looks bad about your body, it can also reduce your sex drive. This loss can make you feel worse about yourself
The way you look at can also be difficult for your loved ones, which in turn may be difficult for you, for example, parents and grandparents often worry about the fact that they How to see a child or grandchild. They fear that changes in their appearance can frighten the child or get the way to stay close to their living.
Coping with physical changes
How do you cope with changes in body?
- Hit your deficit and know that it is OK to feel sad, angry and depressed. Your emotions are real, and you have the right to grieve.
- Try to focus on ways to combat cancer, making you stronger, sensible, and more realistic.
- If your skin has changed with radiation, ask your doctor about the ways you can take care of it.
- Find new ways to enhance your appearance: A new haircut, hair color, makeup or clothes can give you a lift. If you are wearing a wig, you can take it for a size and style in a hairdresser. Are there.
- If you choose to wear breast form, make sure that it fits you well, do not be afraid to ask the clerk or someone you ask for help. And see if it will pay for it, check out your health insurance plan.
These changes can be difficult to face. But, over time, most people learn to adjust with them and learn to move forward. If you need this, then consult your doctor to the counselor about what you can talk about your feelings.
Stay active
Many people find that by staying active, the image of yourself can be helpful. Some things you can try are:
- Walk or run
- Swimming
- Playing a game
- Taking exercise classes
- Drag or yoga
You will find that being active helps you cope with the changes. It can reduce your stress and helps you to relax. It can also help you feel stronger and more in control of your body. Start slowly, if you need the time, talk to your doctor about those methods that you can stay active.
Interests and volunteer work can also help to improve your own image and self esteem. You can read, listen to music, crossword or other kinds of puzzles, garden or landscape, or write blogs, just for a few names. Or you can volunteer at a church or local agency or you can become a mentor or teacher for example. You can find that you feel better about yourself when you help others and whatever you enjoy, get involved in it.
Changes in Your Sex Life
There are problems with sex with people due to cancer and its treatment, it is normal. When your treatment is over, you may like to have sex again, but it can take some time. Issues other than sexual side effects of cancer treatment can last longer. It is important to help in learning how to adapt these changes
Until then, you and your spouse may need to find new ways of showing that you care about each other, it may include touching, holding, hugging and cuddling.
Treatment problems
Sexual problems are often caused by changes in your body. You may have short-term or long-term problems in relation to sex after treatment, depending on your cancer. These changes can sometimes cause problems with chemotherapy, radiation, surgery, or emotional problems like anxiety, depression, anxiety and stress, from some drugs.
What kinds of problems are there? Common concerns are:
Concerns about intimacy after treatment can fight with their physical image after some treatment. Even thinking about being seen without clothes can be stressful, people may worry that having sex is hurt or they will not be able to perform or will not feel less attractive. Loss of pain, interest, depression, or cancer medicines can also affect sex drive.
As you did before, the same sex is not able to have sex due to the treatment of some cancer changes in sex organisms that also change your sex life.
Some men can no longer get or get build after the treatment of prostate cancer, cancer of the penis, or testosterone cancer. Some treatments can also weaken the orgasm of a man or dry it. Unable to ejaculate for being backward in the urinary bladder to get involved in less common problems or to be null.
After the treatment of cancer, some women get tough, or painful for sex. Although some cancers can cause these problems, there can be no obvious reason for some women to have pain or numbness in their genital area.
Due to the symptoms of menopause, when women stop stopping their periods, they can be hot, dry, dry or dry in the vagina, and / or other problems that can affect their desire to have sex.
Losing the ability of children can lead to infertility due to the treatment of some cancer, which would make it impossible for the survivors of children. Depending on the treatment, age and time period after treatment, you may still have children for more information on fertility, see the organization, Fertile Asexit Disclaimer
Ask for help
Even if you may feel weird, your doctor or nurse knows that you have problems with intimacy or sex. Treatment or other methods can give happiness to you and your loved one if your doctor can not talk to you about sexual problems, then ask for a doctor's name which some people can do to other couples Seems helpful in talking with
Sexual problems can not always be better on their own. Sometimes there may be an underlying medical problem that causes changes in general changes and some solutions are as follows:
Construction problems can be helpful in medical, assistive, counseling, surgery, or other ways.
Vaginal dryness can be due to dryness or panic menopause in the vagina. Ask whether to use lubricants during sex during sex, using vaginal dialers before sex, and / or taking hormones or using hormone cream is your option.
Muscle weakness You can help strengthen the muscles in your genital area by exercising Kegel. This happens when you practice exercising to control your muscles to stop urine flow. You can do these exercises even when you are not pissing. Just relax the muscles just because you sit, stand or go about your day.
Other problems are that you may want to talk about:
Concerns about children. Discuss family planning concerns with your doctor. If you are a woman, ask if you still need to use birth control, even if you are not getting your period.
Talking with a counselor. Some sexual problems related to the cancer began to create tension in their relationship with their partner. If this is the case, then you can talk to a counselor ask a nurse or social worker. Talk to someone alone, or can help, with your partner.
See a specialist. A sex therapist you and your partner come up with new ways to help you to help work through talking openly about your problems, your concerns, and can.
Tell your partner that you feel
Talking to your loved one is very important to share your feelings and concerns. Even for a couple that has been together a long time, it can be difficult to stay connected.
If you or will just want a hug, kiss, cuddle and have sex, tell your partner. He or she may be afraid to have sex with you. Or your partner may be worried about the looks are not good damage that has been damaged or your health.
Talk to your partner about any concerns you have about your sex life. Be open about your feelings and stay positive to avoid charges.
I did not lower her mastectomy because of my love for him and said to his wife. I was very worried that she rid of the cancer.
Charles
Ways to find intimate
You can now have an intimate relationship in spite of cancer. Intimacy is not just physical. It includes emotions. Here are some ways to improve your intimate relationships:
Just focus and renew your connection.
Protect your time together. Turn off the phone and TV. If needed, for a few hours to find someone to care.
slowly. Plan an hour or live together without being physical. For example, you can listen to music or take a walk.
Try new contacts. The cancer treatment or surgery can change a patient's body. Touch Areas where it used to feel may still be numb or painful. Some of these changes will go away. Some will remain. For now, what you can do with each other hugging, holding contact type, such as cuddling and the like.
Intimate feel after treatment.
Maybe the treatment of cancer, sexual problems can stay for a while. But if you can find other ways to show care for each other. Feel closer to your partner is important.
- Be proud of your body. Through this treatment you got!
- Think about the things that help you feel more attractive and confident.
- Focus on the positive. Since they can affect your sex life, try to be aware of your thoughts.
- Be open to change. You can find new ways to enjoy intimacy.
Dating
If you're single, concerns about body changes and sex can affect how you feel about dating. Changes as you struggle to accept yourself, you may worry about how it will feel to others. For example, you might wonder how someone such as hair loss, scars or ostomies physical things, will react. Or it can feel awkward to bring up, loss of sexual problems or fertility which may find it difficult to close.
The starting date can feel like a challenge. When and how about your cancer and body changes might be surprised to tell a new person in your life. Some cancer keeps them from social life for survivors, they want to take the fear of being rejected. The choice not to date may face pressure from friends or family, others are more accommodating. Here are some ideas that can make it easier to get back in social situations:
- For example, join the festivities and group classes or going out to a club for you to enjoy it to focus on its activities.
- The cancer dating and try not to let that be an excuse for not trying to meet people.
- Wait until you feel confident that before a new date about your cancer and sense of friendship.
- Dating Get advice from your friends or family to talk to other cancer survivors about.
With a social purpose of enjoying Think of dating as a learning process. Or how often do you get to choose the date. Not every date has to be perfect. Some people reject you (can be with or without cancer is), you have not failed. Before that you had cancer, try to remember not all dates worked out. And maybe, your cancer experience gives purpose and a sense of appreciation for what you did not already have a relationship with you.
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